>First let me tell you how excited I am that one week from today is our next ultrasound!!!! Hopefully I can start referring to Baby Cotton as a HIM OR HER!!!
Communication is one of our strong suits. We have no problem listening to each other’s logic and coming to a reasonable solution to the situation at hand. Prior to making the decision to start trying to have a baby we talked a lot about parenting techniques and the values we wanted to instill in our child (I told you we liked to be prepared). The spanking question is absolutely no different. The only exception is that I’m usually the more logical (Mel with all her book smarts!) one and therefore I usually win (not that it’s a competition…), I lost this one and I’m glad I did.
My argument was that I was spanked and I turned out ok (I think) and some situations just call for a smack on the tush (or the hand). I was by no means suggesting we beat our child, so keep reading before you get all crazy on me!
Mel’s argument started similar, she wasn’t spanked and she turned out ok. Of course her parents will quickly tell you that she was terrible child (“A child only a mother could love…”), so maybe they deserve sainthood for not spanking. At this point the initial argument is long gone and the more logical one has emerged. Spanking will just make our child fear us (umm…I totally feared the adults in my life…so maybe she’s right). Her second point is what made me change my mind, fear that we might take our anger out on the child and physically hurt him/her. I would never want to go in with the intention of spanking and end up actually hurting our kid.
I know you might be thinking “Do you think spaking doesn’t hurt?”, not exactly, I think spanking is meant to startle more so than physically hurt. My step dad spanked my little brother so badly he could barely walk (and he never spanked again) just the memory of that breaks my heart and confirms that Melissa is right, we will not spank.
We didn’t even spank our dog when we were training. If he was misbehaving we tossed a little big bag so that it would land near him, the noise would startle him. The dog eventually learned if I chew on your shoe the loud noise happens and so he quit chewing on shoes. You think we could train a baby with a bean bag? No?
Were you spanked? Will/Are you going to spank? Why or why not?