Choosing a baby name should be fun but honestly it’s hard! Some might think we are over thinking it, but I want it to be perfect!
Here are our “dislikes”.
- We don’t like anything that can be shortened to just initials – TJ,BJ, DJ, KC…etc
- We want our child to have a complete adult name. So we may really like the short name (i.e. Lexi) for when they are kids but, we don’t like the grown up name (i.e. Alexis/Alexa) and let’s face it I don’t want my child entering the professional world sounding like a 12 year old (or a stripper…).
- We are trying to avoid names that could potentially be shortened to an insult or paired with our last name to become an evil taunt (Candy Cotton, Polly Cotton, Heaven Lee Cotton, Egypt Cotton, Ginny Cotton (Cotton, Gin), or any southern location -Georgia Cotton).
- We don’t want the initials to spell anything negative (FUC or YUC).
- We don’t want a crazy spelling that people can’t figure out.
Mel’s mom got us a book that is right up our ally. It’s direct and tells you all of the stupid things to avoid. We seriously could have written it. (Best Loved Baby Names and their meanings by Tracey Zabar) Her take on Make-believe names: “Don’t do it. It’s not cute, trendy, or nice. Just weird. Same with make-believe spelling.” Don’t get me wrong, I’m fine replacing an I or an E with a Y (Karen/Karyn), a C with a K or an S sound with a Z (i.e. Cruise/Kruz), I just don’t see the point in completely butchering a name to the point of it being unrecognizable.
As a person who grew up with a name that is not very common and definitely not spelled the more common way (Darcie/Darci/Darcy/D’Arcy) I know that it’s nice to have some individuality. However, it would have been nice to find my name on a pencil…I’m just saying.
And then there is the ridiculous crap that would never be considered. Here are a few from the baby board Mel is (always) on.
- Jeap Rubycon (really?)
- Jack Russell (woof)
- Alyvia (really you can’t just spell it Olivia?)
- Nevaeh (heaven backwards? Sounds so classless…just my opinion no hate mail please!)
- Heaven Lee
What we know for sure it that Mel and I both like more traditional names. However, we don’t want our child to be one of 14 Masons in his kindergarten class. Now if we could only find one that met all of our criteria.
Hell, maybe we are over thinking it…I think we will go with Jeap Rubycon if it’s a boy and Polly if it’s a girl.