Melissa and I are both a little stressed about our trip to Mississippi this year, which isn’t until Thanksgiving…so we’ve got many months of anxiety/nervousness to go.
Here’s a little background on why we are nervous:
- I’m a chicken. My wonderful friend (who’s technically my great aunt) Michelle came out to dad’s family for me (I knew they would be furious)…while we were on our way to my dad’s funeral.
- It went over like a ton of bricks. WAY worse than I thought it would. (Mel was practically a ghost…and I shouldn’t have expected any better)
- My mom’s family LOVES Mel and all they want is for me to be happy. (And from what I can tell Mel’s family loves me!)
- Mel is allergic to wheat.
- She is dreading the possibility of cold weather.
So, since the last time we went to Mississippi we’ve gotten married and by the time we get there we’ll have a baby. My stress comes from prior events. Mel’s comes from the thought of accidentally poisoning herself by eating wheat or freezing to death in the tundra of Mississippi (eye roll).
I feel like we can prevent any accidental “wheating” and for the most part eat at home. We do control all variables when we cook it ourselves. I think she’s forgotten that Hattiesburg, MS (population 55,000 +) is a far cry from the city that my grandmother grew up in New Augusta (population 715); there are chain restaurants – that we know she can eat at. Did I mention we can cook at home? I think she’s envisioning outhouses and fire pits or something. So babe – you do not have to go out in a blizzard to pee and my mamaw has central heat and air. I just checked the average low in November is 45 and the average high is 70. So please calm down!!!
My stress is more family related. The trip is necessary because we haven’t been since dads funeral (August 2006) and it’s much easier for the three of us to hop on a plane and go introduce Baby Cotton to my family than it would be for my massive family come see us. (Picture it: 30 people in our two bedroom apartment!) I realize that I have to go see my dad’s parents. I am aware that they are getting older and I should be the bigger person and just go see them (even though they don’t call or write or even care to for that matter). Here’s my problem, I have a family and I’m far from ashamed of who I am. I am the happiest I could have ever imagined myself being and wouldn’t change a thing (well except winning the lottery…I’d take that into my realm of happiness…please?) So, do I bother taking baby Cotton to visit or do I abandon Mel and the Baby with my other family and go pretend all is great and well. Regardless of my choice, it’s not going to go well. I’m leaning toward sparing Mel the drama and sucking it up alone. I’m going to hope that my cousin (who’s like my sister) will go with me, they do like her much better after all. GAH – I don’t know.
What I know for sure is that I’m very thankful for my little family. I’m thankful for my mom’s family for loving me (and Mel) no matter what! I’m thankful for Michelle for taking the direct force of the heat. I’m thankful for Mel’s family and the fact they will love Baby Cotton no differently than any other baby! And of course for my amazing group of friends who can’t wait to be aunts and uncles!
Whew – that was a little deep for a Monday.
Have you voted in the “boy or girl” poll? Only TWO MORE WEEKS until the ultrasound!!!